Gina Goes to Court….

….and other wastes of time!

Okay, not sure if I mentioned on this site the fact that I got a speeding ticket this past summer. I speed everyday – my “zone” of speed on the freeway is right around 80 – so it was just a matter of time before I got a speeding ticket. I don’t really have a bone to pick with the CHP officer that gave me the ticket – it is what it is.

On a side note, back in the 70’s when Chips was a popular show about the CHP officers, it used to tick my Dad off when non-Californians referred to CHP officers as “chips”. No one here calls them that!

Anyway, Gina paid for this ticket and traffic school, but in the craziness of her life and all the moves, misplaced the notice for traffic school. Said form was found last Wednesday, at which time I noticed I had until 1/12 to get my traffic school done. Um, not gonna happen! So I called the court and was told I needed to see a judge. I went there the following afternoon with Kirstie (who I had to bribe with sushi to go with me) and was told I needed to come at 7:30 the next morning to get in the court queue. I did that, only to find out that it took several hours to get through the process and, unfortunately, I had an interview in Woodland Hills at 11 am, so decided to take a chance and go back to court on Monday the 12th.

So that brings me to today, the 12th. I almost didn’t go – I was SO TIRED this morning and was like, forget it. But then Edgar’s mom convinced me to go. I was in line 40 minutes later with the others who had traffic issues – some more serious than mine. We were assigned our courts and viola – there we went.

The bailiff for my court was a man in his late 50’s or early 60’s, with a shaved head, and a big gun. He reminded me of my Dad because he was kind of buff and intimidating to look at. He was also a “no nonsense” kind of guy who had no problem yelling out things like, “Hey USC (referring to the guy’s sweatshirt), take your hat off” or “white shirt, stop talking right now”. He and his gun scared me way more than the judge!

When I was called with my group to see the judge, I had already determined I probably didn’t need a lengthy story as to why I was there, why I had waited so long to deal with traffic school, or anything like that. Others before me just stood there as he assigned a new deadline. In fact, one kid was there for not wearing his helmet on his bicycle…..let me tell you, that is expensive, especially when it was the second offense! The kid’s Dad tried to get the fee reduced, but the judge was like, “he didn’t take a warning last time, and next time if he is in my court the fee will be even higher”.

ANYWAY, when my turn came, I stood silently, careful not to touch the table in front of me or put my hands in my pockets (two serious offenses that really got the bailiff’s blood boiling). The judge looked at me from his high perch and asked, “Are you here for two cases?”

“No, I am here for one case.”

“Well, why do I have two cases?”

“I am not sure, Sir. I am here to extend my traffic school deadline.”

“Oh okay. You have until February 25th. I can’t extend it again so make sure you take care of it by that date. You are free to go to the cashier.”

“Thank you judge.”

I left pretty quick, not daring to lock eyes with Mr. I-Can-Shoot-You-Just-Give-Me-A-Reason Bailiff, and headed to another queue, waiting for my name to be called. I figured it would be a while since I saw many of the faces that talked to the judge ahead of me. I sat down, began to read on of my new books, and relaxed. Suddenly, I hear, “Gina Mxxxxx, window 10”. I was so surprised, and really pleased, and walked to the window with a little skip in my step.

“Are you Gina Mxxxxx?”

“Yes.”

“The judge is calling you back to Court.” Dun dun dun!

I walked back into the court with my mind spinning. Did he see the ticket I got last month and now wants to revoke the extension? Did he have questions about why I waited until the last minute to do this? Was there another problem I have no idea about? Don’t you just hate when your mind can think of worse case scenarios so quickly?!?!!?!

When I walked in, the Bailiff looked my once over like I was a moving target, looked back at the man facing the judge, and I sat quickly in a seat. I had no idea when I would be called by the judge, if I needed to check in or something, but I was NOT going to call attention to myself or give Mr. Bailiff a reason to touch his gun. So I sat there, not knowing if this day was going to turn into a horribly long one. Fortunately, as the man with the judge finished, the judge called my name.

“Gina Mxxxxx” I stood before him without a word, facing straight ahead, and tried to not look guilty or nervous. “I found your other case, sorry for the confusion. Do you plead guilty or do you want a trial.”

So let me explain this new issue a bit for reference – back in December I left work (one of the worse days ever – in fact, the day before I quit) and was a mess. I was sobbing in the car, tears running down my face, and utterly despondent. I was living in Woodland Hills at the time and driving from Tustin. For those of you out of the So Cal area, this meant I would be driving 1 1/2 to 2 hours in traffic. I was driving my friend’s hybrid car, which allowed me to access the carpool lane even though I was alone. When I got on the freeway, traffic was HORRIBLE and I didn’t have much time to get to the carpool lane, especially since the freeway I needed totally blocked the carpool lane off with concrete barriers. I aggressively changed lanes in the 5-10 mpg traffic, tears running down my face, totally absorbed in the fact that my life pretty much sucked at that moment.

When I made it to the fast lane, I soon realized the carpool lane was just as congested and, further, the people there didn’t care that my car’s blinker was signaling that I wanted in, too. (This is a common problem with driving in rush hour traffic in California.) Anyway, those of you who know me for real, know that this sort of problem has never been a real issue to me. Not sure if my confidence level is unrealistic or if I don’t care about my car, but it’s amazing how well people move when you don’t give them a choice. LOL So, as the entry/broken line to the carpool was ending, I pushed my way in.

This is where it gets ugly. I promise you, if I DID cross the yellow line, it was my back tire and it was less than 5 feet. This was after fighting to get into the carpool lane. Believe me, as I mentioned earlier, I am not one to say “that is so unfair” when I get a ticket for something I know I have done wrong. I HAVE crossed the yellow line on many occasions, and if I had been pulled over, I would have resigned to accept the consequences. However, this was NOT the case on this night. (And, frankly, I am not interested in hearing from anyone telling me this was my karma for the times I DID break the law, so please refrain.)

I drove for several miles, minding my own business, eating my sunflower seeds (they calm me and taste good!), still kind of crying because of the drama at work. Then, suddenly, blue and red lights.

I am going to cut this description short because, well, my blood is starting to boil again! I got a ticket for crossing the yellow line and, well, the CHP officer was training a newbee! I was a little pissy with him, telling him it was a far stretch and that he saw the entire thing (he claimed he was behind me and crossed the yellow line as well to follow me) but I was like, whatever. I even accused him of trying to meet a quota.

Side note: Accussing an officer of ANYTHING is, well, not recommended.

Also, crying apparently does NOT work, even though I was crying for another reason.

So anyway, this was the ticket the judge called me back for, and which I am contemplating going to trial for since I think it is bogus and also because I am not eligible for traffic school anyway. (That, and the fact it is a $400 fine!). But, I was NOT prepared to address that today, and that is what I told the judge. Fortunately, the court clerk interjected that I had until February 24th to respond to the court for that ticket.

“Oh,” the judge said, “I see. I will go ahead and record no action for you and you can take care of this later. You are free to go.” I hit the floor pretty quick, not taking the chance of the judge or Mr. I-Carry-A-Gun changed their minds, and headed back to the hall. Once out the door, I was able to feel my relief – whew, nothing about the extension! I went back to the cashier area, waiting for a while, got my extension paperwork, and hit the road!

And that, my friends, is the recap of my day in court!

On another side note, I have decided to create a new page on this blog. I used to have a book review page, but now I have a Books I’m Reading page.  If you’re extremely bored, check it out!

And, no I haven’t scheduled my traffic school yet!  🙂

2009? Really?!?!!?

Well, Happy New Year to everyone!  I have not been in the mood to write much, but I promise that will change soon…..at least I hope it does!

Kenny, Josh and I went skiing/snowboarding over the New Year with Rita.  It was fun but boy, did I get sore!  I promise to post pics soon.

2008 Recap

2008 was filled with LOTS of things……here are some of them:

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Kirstie with me at my MBA Orientation of Hope International University

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    Sleepy days……

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    And the consequences of the only one falling asleep!

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    And perpetual paparazzi avoidance…….

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    New Friends

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    Amazing memories!

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    And fun activities!

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    Cool kids…….

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    And manifestations of tempers!

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    Music Production……

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    New loves…..

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    And the comfort of family!

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    New toys…..

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    and the winner’s circle!

    See, 2008 had some fun happenings!!!

    See Ya, 2008!

    I don’t know if it’s my age or what, but the years sure pass by quickly nowadays! I was just getting used to the sound of 2008, and now it’s gone! And then I think about years past and it amazes me that the memories are piling up so high…..sigh!

    So 2008 was an interesting year…..well, it could even be described as a horrible year in many ways. And maybe some of my regular readers expect me to recap those horrible parts. But I actually don’t feel like it! Right now I can’t help but think that, even with the tough part of the year, God has been faithful and brought me to the point of feeling His peace – not to mention that I’ve grown in ways I never thought possible. So, I’ve decided that these pieces of my year are more important to reflect on than the unfortunate circumstances that, ultimately, helped me on the journey.

    • I appreciate the love and support of my friends over the year. Paramount in my mind are Rona and Stephanie, who helped me in ways that words cannot express.
    • I have been able to live well this year, even without being employed most of the year. During the summer months especially, the time I spent with the boys was AMAZING! I would not change that for anything.
    • Even though I hurt my shoulder, I am blessed to have COBRA and was able to have it fixed.
    • I was able to see some amazing things this year; front row, just off center seats in Madison Square Garden with Cathy, where we watched Bon Jovi rock! The next night wasn’t bad either – 8th row! Seeing NYC, being in Central Park, and getting hot dogs and pizza were amazing, too! I appreciate Cathy giving me those memories.
    • Spending a fun-filled mini-vacation at the Disneyland Resort with the boys was great fun too. It truly seems to be the happiest place on earth.
    • Forging friendships for life filled this year. Edgar is truly my best friend and I am so glad to have him back in my life. Rita has shown me that it’s okay to be honest. Eddie, my brother, has reminded me that unconditional love does exist. Anita (Edgar’s Mom) has shown me that friendship takes on many shapes and convention should not be a determination.
    • I have gotten so close to Kirstie this year that I cannot express how happy I am.
    • I can talk to my Dad and Ellie and love spending time with them.
    • I have been blessed by the internet in that I can easily communicate with family members who live far away; Aunt Kay, Cousins Lori and Christine, even Edgar’s brother Eric – all the way in Hungary!
    • I love Gracie and am so glad she is part of my life! She fills spaces I never knew existed.

    Okay, that’s all I have right now! Maybe more later!

    Christmas Eve Eve

    Since Rita had a ticket to leave for Chicago on the 24th, she, David, Gracie, Nike, and I opened presents on the 23rd.  It was FUN!  The most exciting part was when the “kids” (Nike and Gracie) opened their presents.  This is my first Christmas with Gracie, and she is still pretty young(1 1/2), so the odds are good that this was the first time she actually opened presents.

    Nike was the first to go…..

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    Then it was Gracie’s turn!

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    Overall it was a fun night for all!  Next, info from Christmas Eve and Christmas!

    Merry Christmas to you all!

    Sunday – aagghhh!

    It’s hard to believe that next week is Christmas!  So much has been going on in my life, that little piece of info seems to have been lost in the shuffle!  Rita and I WERE able to get a few items earlier in the week, but not much!  Today I ordered some more gifts for the boys from BestBuy.com and hope to pick them up later today.  I have a few more items to get on my list……hopefully I can knock them out today or tomorrow!

    I also spent a large amount of time yesterday and this morning finishing up my portion of the Final Project for my latest MBA class.  This included sharing my team’s business plan and results from our simulated business.  I actually enjoyed this class very much – way better than Statistics!  I have learned much to use in my career and look forward to – hopefully someday – opening a business with Rita.

    The kids are doing pretty well.  I spent the night at Edgar’s Friday – it was not planned.  I had a team meeting at 7pm on Friday and there was no way I’d get home in time for it.  I also was meeting with Edgar after my physical therapy session to take care of some other items.  The meeting with my team lasted MUCH longer than I expected, ending at around 10pm.  The boys, especially Josh, were anxious for me to spend the night, so I did.  It was fun hanging with them, and I even got to see Kirstie when she got home later that night.

    Josh woke me at 7:45 in the morning and we were able to eat some donuts together, thanks to Anita’s early outing to get them!

    Kenny, Josh, Rita and I (and maybe Kirstie if she’s interested) are taking a ski trip from the 31st through the 3rd.  We are all very excited and, fortunately, PT has been good enough for me that I can ski too!  I might be a little tentative, but it will be fun to be out there with my boys and Rita.  I can’t wait to see Kenny snowboard and Josh ski!  They took several lessons a couple years ago and they were getting pretty good….hope they remember how to do things!  It’s gonna be SO MUCH FUN and hopefully the beginning of a new tradition.  And it will be interesting if I actually STAY AWAKE for the new year instead of sleeping and getting up moments before midnight…..LOL.

    Okay, I am taking off now….have lots to do…..like watching Terms of Endearment!  Wait, where are the tissues????

    It’s Thursday?

    In the short months when I have been back to work, I had forgotten how the days meld together when you aren’t working.  It surprised me to realize that today is THURSDAY!  Wow.  I used to live for this day before as it meant tomorrow was Friday and I would have a two day reprieve from the crap at work!  LOL  Now I just think, “wow, Rita and David will not have to go to work in a few day!”

    Speaking of work, Rita went into work at like 4am this morning!  Just the reality of owning your own business can be hard work!  Well, to give Rita some credit, she is a hard worker 100% of the time and one of the most fair owners/bosses I have witnessed in my long life…..

    So yesterday I went with a friend to finally see the movie Twilight.  You may remember from earlier posts, Kirstie got me hooked on the book series this past summer – she read the first 3 books (over 1,500 pages) in like 4 days and then pre-ordered the 4th book.  She likes to read, but this was very unusual for her.  So, me being into books and all, decided I would check it out, too.  And they ARE good books.  In fact, forgive me for being lazy, but I will update my book review page, hopefully today.

    Anyway, I usually hate when books are made into movies……not sure that is fair, because obviously books are a different genre and can express emotions/thoughts/feelings so much better than can be expressed in film.  Even still, I usually am very disappointed with films based on books I have read.  I disliked The Notebook very much.  The Other Boleyn was another disappointment.  So I went into this movie, although excited to be finally seeing it, with low expectations.

    It’s important to note that the characters in Twilight were well developed by the author, and I have to state right away, the actors who portrayed them in the film did an EXCEPTIONAL job.  Too often I see different people there, but that was not the case with this film.  (And again, remember I am a little bit of a snob in this area.)  And, although this was a low-budget, independent production (which means bad editing and some footage looked like Mom did it with the family camcorder), the film stayed very true to the book.  While every detail is impossible to touch on, and there were a few awkward points were non-readers may miss some key info, overall it was VERY well done and held my interest throughout the film.  I think this is worth your time and money to see, and I even plan on buying the DVD when it comes out next year!

    So today I am working on homework – LOTS of homework!  It’s the last week of my class and there is a big Final Team Project due!  I am meeting with my team online tonight – the members are in Carson, Chicago, and New York.  It’s interesting, this online MBA program!  I must say, the caliber of the Kaplan classes are VERY good and they truly challenge me!  MUCH better than the university I was last enrolled in for my MBA!  I am happy to report that I currently have 97.56% in the class….whew.

    And, for those curious to know – NG’s average of reading this site per day remains right around 5.

    Dogs are sneaky, too!

    So yesterday I decided to actually take a shower, since I was home and being lazy. The shower is off of Rita’s room and usually Gracie follows me and hangs there. Nike usually is more independent and doesn’t follow, and he NEVER gets up on her bed because it is too high. The first thing that happened was this – Gracie barking at the stuff animal…..

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    (notice the pink piece in her mouth?)

    And then I heard Nike come investigate the barking – he is a big boy, so you hear when he enters the room.  Then Gracie seemed to be barking at him for support:

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    I got tired of trying to make her stop barking and went to dry my hair……the next thing you know…….

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    (yes, they are kissing in the first pic)

    So, I had a good laugh and Nike didn’t really need that much help getting off the bed (which IS very high! and, at his size, he is not the most graceful dogs around…..).  I warned Rita that she may be very crowded during the night!  LOL  But I SO love these dogs!  They are so sweet!

    Okay, might share the boys’ hair trims later, but for now I need more coffee.

    Sorry for the Silence

    Lots of drama and fun in my life, so haven’t had much time to write.  I am hungry right now, so this will be quick:

    • I sent to Physical Therapy on Friday and it looks to be great AND hard work.  Reginald is my PT and is nice.  I have exercises to do and they are simple, but much harder then I anticipated!
    • The kids are GREAT!  Was able to spend the weekend with the boys and it was fantastic.  They are VERY comfortable in my new dregs so that makes it that much more fun.  They even let me get their hair trimmed!
    • I quit my job on Friday.  The ultimatum was not reached and, in fact, things had gotten much worse and Lien’s husband (one of the owners) pretty much said what she says, goes.  I didn’t have a title, clear responsibilities, unclear reporting channels, and was made to outright break California Labor Law.  Further, I had no authority, not even being able to send a generic fax without both of their approval.  So, I said forget it even though this economy is so bad.  It may have been a bad decision, but I was tired of having pain in my gut and other physical/emotional negative effects on my life.  Plus, I could be prosecuted for a misdemeanor for some of the things they wanted me to do, so why stay?  I DO have to say, I have nothing but respect for Corey, the owner who contacted me, and whom really wanted to make the necessary changes and who backed me up , often leading to confrontations with Son.  I am sorry to leave him.
    • Now, it’s time to focus on the holidays……

    Hope my faithful readers (and those who read it several times a day!) have a great day and holiday season.  For those in Southern California, especially those that were effected by the recent fires, I pray that you drive safely and avoid the mud slides, etc.

    Tuesdays after Birthdays

    Okay, I have about 10 minutes to jot down a few words about my birthday weekend.

    • First of all, Nancy Goens DID write again, although she assured me “she is done” now. I will let you know if that remains the case.
    • Friday night traffic was a bear, but Rita was still able to salvage the night; we went out to dinner and then she gave me some presents. She had hints on each present so I would have to try to figure them out…..it was very fun! The coolest present – which happens to be the reason I am writing this right now – is a USB wireless modem! So I can get on the internet anywhere I need to (that doesn’t already have a wireless connection)!!!!
    • Saturday, Edgar, Rita, Kirstie, Kenny and Josh really DID take me out to bowl! Those stinkers took advantage of the fact they could beat me with my bum shoulder! I bowled right handed and did pretty darn good actually! Although Rita had a stellar first game at 157! Kirstie had to go to work, but she got some great frames in too and we all have great fun together.
    • Then, we all went to Dave & Busters for dinner and more fun. Kenny won me a huge pink stuffed animal for my birthday. We also played tons of games. Note here that I totally whooped Rita in basketball…..she tried several times afterward to beat my score, but didn’t come close. Ba ha ha ha.
    • The boys came to my place and spent the weekend, which was great fun. One funny end to my birthday is that I bought Kenny an early Christmas present – DRUMS! Well, they will be at Edgar’s house and I bought practice pads for them, but it was SO FUN to pick them out, set them up, and play on them! He has already gotten pretty good at the basic rhythm I taught him! It was nice being able to get the drums considering I have been unable to for a long time.

    That’s about it for now. School is still going, I am still getting settled, and my shoulder continues to heal. In fact, I can go about 6-8 hours before I even think about pain pills now. It is encouraging. I start physical therapy this Friday.

    Okay, I better get back to work!