Life – Wow, That’s Deep

So, basically, this is another rant about life and my strong opinions.  So, if you’ve read this blog more than once, this is going to be old news for you and you’d best go onto your next site!  🙂

  • It’s beyond me how people think they are NOT being rude when they leave their grocery cart behind your car!  My parking lot at work is a crazy one; there’s a McDonald’s, a Trader Joe’s, and other smaller stores, not to mention Du-par’s.  Parking is an issue, and many spots are very narrow.  Alas, one day I am coming out to leave from work and a young, fit lady was putting her cart behind my car.  When I walk up to put my stuff in the back of the car, I thought that’d be enough for her to move it.  Nope.  Then I had the GALL to ask her to take her cart, as she was obviously wrapping up her stuff and heading to the driver’s seat.  She looked at me with shock, was obviously appalled that I would suggest such a thing, and told me that the parking places were too close and she didn’t want to walk the cart back to Trader Joe’s.  I said, “Seriously?”  She said yes and got in her car.  Well, yes 2.78 readers, once she got in her car, I pushed the cart from behind my car to behind hers and got in my car.  I have never seen so many F-word chains and middle fingers in my life.  And I wonder, was it REALLY my responsibility to take back the cart??????  My decision – NO.  Her decision – YES, and I was therefore a {fill in the blank}.
  • I have been amazingly blessed by FaceBook and the dozens of connections I’ve made with people that  would have otherwise remained as memories to me OR whom I’d only see every 10 or so years at reunions.  In fact, I have forged friendships with some that weren’t really close to me during high school, and that is awesome!  But there are also interesting, and perhaps negative aspects of FB as well.  This springs up a lot during shows like American Idol and the like – people on the East or Central time zones post status updates such as “I can’t BELIEVE Adam is in the bottom three!” when us poor West Coast people scream “NO!”  Some try to be nice and say, “Hey, don’t spoil the ending for us PDT peeps!”, while others are much more direct.  Sadly, I have seen 90% of the time the “guilty” people get ‘tude when called on their actions.  This recently happened to me as well; someone made mention to something that happened in Harry Potter’s latest movie, which I guess occurred in book 6.  I called her on it, I guess nicely, and she said oh no, you could tell it was heading that way, the way this happened in book 2 bladda bladda.  When I said, “wow, you’re assuming I have even gotten that far!  Maybe I am on book 1!  So seriously, you ruined a plot that has been building for over 4 books!  Thanks!”  And her response?  “You are SO behind, shame on you!”  Is that really an excuse for putting on FB the ending of a 6 or 7 book series?  COME ON PEOPLE, SPOILERS SUCK!  And for those of you that are my FB friends who live in non-Pacific time zones who habitually put the results of shows such as American Idol up, I have removed you from my live feed…….just saying……
  • I won’t grumble about this next piece too much as this economy has done SO MUCH to so many people and my frustration seems petty in comparison.  I have lived in my present home for 4 months.  When I applied for it, I said I had a dog and also, due to circumstances I won’t list here, had other items that made me an “good” tenant instead of a “stellar” tenant.  Primarily due to the dog, I was asked to provide a two month deposit.  So, basically, within 48 hours I had to come up with three month’s rent.  It was harrowing.  It was stressful.  It sucked.  But, thanks be to God, I managed it and here I am today.  So it is a bit frustrating to realize that, at the point that Mr. Owner Dude, -who asked this ALMOST impossible thing of me – was doing this, he was already in default on his mortgage.  He had already stopped paying it, had already been threatened with foreclosure, had already had a good indication that he would be losing his house.  He knew my 12 month lease and my lease payments were just gonna be gravy for him and that he would never have to access or even USE the deposit, as he knew he would be losing the house.  And that is fine, I HAVE enjoyed living here the 4 months I have.  However, I am VERY thankful Mr. Owner Dude never had access to my two month deposit, nor that I will ever meet him face-to-face.  (On a side note, I am sad to report that two other condos on our street have been foreclosed on this past week, too.  This is sad proof that many are still struggling during this recession.)
  • On that note, I have some real life feedback on people’s responses to problems.  For example, I first learned of the problem Mr. Owner Dude was having when a notice of auction was posted on my front door.  It stated that the property I was leasing was going up for auction on 7/16.  I mentioned this at work, and a person who might own a business first responded by saying, “Oh good, you should buy it!”  Wow.  Okay, let me just say, when you are living in a house valued at $5Million, can take thousands of dollars out of your firm at any time without accounting for the funds OR paying taxes for them, inherited vast amounts of assets, yet cannot even do the bare minimum required by law in the state your business runs……maybe you shouldn’t say to your employee whose paycheck probably will bounce this Friday  “oh good, you should buy it!”.  Oh, and this whole bullet point is fiction, if you were wondering…..RIGHT.

Okay, the bitch-fest is over.  Not sure I feel better, but at least this has been updated, right?

Living Spaces…..

So today “the bank” knocked on my front door.  You see, the owner that I leased from was not altogether HONEST when he got a deposit from me and signed a 12 month lease.  In actuality, he was already in the process of foreclosure when I moved in on 3/17.  Anyway, the condo is officially back in the bank’s possession and they are not interested in having a tenant.  I have up to 90 days to move, but I am waiting to hear back from them on how this whole thing works.  AT LEAST I will get my entire deposit back and a portion on the rent I paid this month…..AND will not have to pay any other rent while I remain…….

So, if you know of any places in nice areas, let me know.  I am thinking I want to move closer to the beach……..checking out my options……..

Sunday Ramblings

Happy Mid-July to everyone!  Hope you are all doing well!

Sad but Wonderous News

Growing up, I was blessed by having a very intelligent and balanced father.  Well, those blessings continue today, actually.  He is very strong, yet tender hearted and gentle.  Many things he taught me – and the moment he taught them to me – are ingrained in my mind and heart.  One such memory is when my Dad told me that, if someone dies saving another person, they would go to heaven.  I just spent a few moments looking through the Bible to get a verse that supports this, but was getting distracted by other verses I found.  So I KNOW Jesus said something to that effect, but am too tired to keep looking.  ANYWAY, it is with that memory that I share this story about a man who died saving a girl who would have probably drowned.  I am sad, but I believe he is in heaven.

Mud Run Antics

Yesterday, my friend Sonya, Kenny and I ran in the ECO Mud Run in Irvine, CA.  It was FUN but a little disorganized.  We DID get covered in mud AND finished!  Woohoo!  I am not the worse for wear overall, although I DID pull something in my groin that is not altogether pleasant!

mud run 2009

Challenges

So it appears that the owner of the place I lease lost his house to the bank this past week.  Worse case – I have 60-90 days to find a new place to live.  However, I am fortunate that the deposit AND last month’s rent have been held in escrow by a property management company, NOT the owner.  So, if this news is confirmed (by Monday or Tuesday), I WILL get back those funds for sure so that is a big relief.  There is a small chance that the owner will renegotiate his mortgage, even after the foreclosure, so that might happen too.  If I am forced to move, I AM a bit frustrated that I will not get my ROI on the moving expenses after only a few months here, but I am choosing to focus on the positive.

More Stuff

Well, that was misleading, as I am too distracted at present to continue with this post!  So, perhaps I will write more later OR perhaps not!  There you go!

Ruminations of the mind

Yes, I know some of you will be shocked, but I OFTEN ruminate! 🙂

It’s been a while since I’ve written here. There are myriad reasons for this, which I won’t elaborate on now, as they aren’t relevant to today’s post. But my silence of sorts is not indicative of lack of thought on my part – in fact, I often “write” posts in my mind and then am too busy to put them here. So, today I thought I’d try to recreate some of that.

First Rumination (a theme here) – Inconsideration for Others

Okay, most will admit there seems to be more people in the world that spend less time noticing other people around them. Maybe it’s that I am getting old, but seriously, is it hard to leave the door open behind you if someone is entering a door right after you? Does it kill you to stop rolling when a pedestrian is crossing the street in the crosswalk? How hard is it to acknowledge that some people might be having a hard day and a smile from you might make even a small difference?

But being considerate takes many forms, and I fully acknowledge I lack consideration for others at times, too. I was at a concert the other night and witnessed something that made me a little sad. It wasn’t a big deal at all, yet I felt sorry for a girl. You see, two ladies walked by us (including the “girl” I mentioned) who were meeting a group that had already been at the concert for some time. One of the girls obviously knew everyone (I will refer to her as Girl #1), and “the girl” obviously did not (I will call Girl #2). Girl #1 excitedly joined the group, totally leaving Girl #2 alone on the fringe. Never once did Girl #1 even THINK about her friend; never introduced her, never included her in the larger group, never even looked back at her. Girl #2 tried once or twice to “break into” the group, introduced herself to one person on the fringe, but was obviously feeling awkward and left out. I almost offered to buy her a drink, it was so bad!

Why am I mentioning this? Well, for me, it made me realize how self-centered we as a whole have become. NO ONE in the larger group seemed to have noticed ANY of this going on, especially Girl #1 who was her friend! And then I wondered – if I were in the same situation, would I do the same thing to my friend? I am sad to say I hope I wouldn’t, but I am not sure. I guess I am saying, we could all work a little harder thinking about others more and less about ourselves.

Second Rumination – Keeping up with the Jones’

I have been mega guilty of this in my lifetime – buying things I didn’t need to keep up with my friends, having the big house and the fancy cars, etc. Life circumstances, especially this economy, have humbled my attitude if in no other way then taking away my ability to act this way. So I am starting off by saying I am more than guilty of this area…..probably more guilty than most I know.

But now that the economy has gone south for many people, and now that I can’t even PRETEND to keep up with the Jones’, seeing “the game” played seems so much more offensive! Some use Facebook as well as their lives to promote their indulgences while others are struggling to keep their houses, feed their kids, etc. I have an acquaintance who modified their home loan after not paying if for three months on purpose (they COULD make the payments, but knew they could get their loan modified in this market), the wife went on disability because she “could not even sit”, and they have taken three major vacations this summer (Hawaii, Mexico, and back to Hawaii). They refinished their swimming pool after the loan modification. Oh, and the person on disability is having no problem partaking in very physical activities such as jet skiing, etc. This family has friends that are losing their houses, have lost their jobs and are barely making it by on unemployment.

I am NOT suggesting that people should stop taking vacations, should not enjoy life, or anything like that. But it seems especially hard to swallow blatant “booyas” to others, especially when they are so very vocal about the way they are working the system to finance their activities! Even if they WEREN’T working the system, in this economy I would hope that more people would at least be sensitive to the struggles others are facing when broadcasting their third international vacation or whatever. And, with all sincerity, I hope my acquaintances don’t hit the bottom like so many others have…….

Third Rumination – Politically Sanctioned Hatred

I am a registered Republican, although I at times agree with and vote for Democratic initiatives. I research all areas and don’t vote “only Republican”. I know that some people vote down party lines exclusively and get fighting mad at the mere MENTION of the opposing party. This has been a theme for many of my friends on Facebook as well. Politics are a very personal and emotional area of our lives and far be it from me to tell anyone how to think. That is what is so so wonderful about this country; we have a right to think for ourselves and vote and not be persecuted for it.

However, the last part is my true area of rumination – how come there is so much hatred regarding politics? I mean seriously, it’s one thing to say “I don’t really like Obama – I really feel his plan is to make this country socialist and that makes me ANGRY!” It’s another to say, “Obama is a communist, not even an American Citizen, and illegally gave government money in the bail out.” Let me just say here, the bail out started with Bush and hello, do a little research……the House and Senate were involved people!

ANYWAY, I have to laugh a little at my Republican friends on Facebook (and remember, I am a Republican too). They post over and over all these hate-filled articles against Obama, but NOTHING about U.S. Senator John Ensign resigning for having an affair. Nothing about Mark Sanford and his fiasco. More importantly, they are ignoring the recent revelations that Bush and Cheney appear to have broken law with illegal activities under the guise of fighting terrorism. My view is, POLITICIANS ARE, IN GENERAL, GONNA BREAK THE RULES. IT IS NOT A REPUBLICAN OR DEMOCRAT PROBLEM. However, when I mention that to many of my Republican friends, they pretty much attack me to the point that, if their words were rocks, I would be dead right now!

So, yes USE your right to vote. Use your free speech to criticize actions you find reprehensible. But please, all I ask, is to also use your brain a little with the issues AND do not be mean to those that do not agree with you. It is NOT fair to say that Republicans are Christian and Democrats are not (and yes, I have been told that and chastised for voting along Democratic lines…..as that is “voting for Satan”). And I don’t believe it’s EVER fair or productive to spew hatred when you’re trying to make your point.

And for the Christian readers out there, who profess to have a Biblical world view, I add this: Ephesians 6:5-8, which says, ” Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men, because you know that the Lord will reward everyone for whatever good he does, whether he is slave or free.” In Gina’s words – you might hate that Obama is President, but you need to honor him as your President……..and I would say the same thing if it were McCain!

Final Rumination – Christians “In the World”

I fully acknowledge that the whole Michael Jackson media frenzy was, at times, too much! But a friend recently got into a huge debate regarding his memorial. My friend (Friend #1) was heavily chastised by Friend #2, who happens to be a very conservative Christian. Friend #2 said “nothing about the memorial or Michael Jackson’s life can be contributed to God and no Christian should have anything to do with Michael Jackson, his music, his memorial, or any secular music at all.”

Friend #1 argued that the name of Jesus was proclaimed several times throughout the memorial – even HONORING Him – exposing Christ to MILLIONS (if not billions) throughout the world who watched the memorial. Friend #1 further suggested that Friend #2’s stance was pharisaical in nature, as to be truly effective in spreading the Word of God, you need to sometimes “touch the Samaritan”. Scripture was provided to point out how Jesus criticized the Pharisees and their legalistic view of others and their high opinion of their own godliness. Friend #2 retorted “The Pharisees were not Christian.” Well, so much for seeing that BEHAVIORS are what is wrong and that, perhaps, behaviors by today’s Christians can be very pharisaical……

I am NOT suggesting that everyone be FORCED to listen to secular music, but I WILL argue that Christian can and do listen to secular music and that has no bearing on their salvation or their walk. And I will NOT EVER limit the power of God, who uses those who profess Him as their savior and those who do not. I also assert that no one can really know if someone is a Christian or even that sin in our lives (and let’s face it, we all sin Christian or not) automatically ends our usefulness to God, OR that it limits the Power of God to work……I mean, all those years Ted Haggart was having an affair, people were accepting Christ in his church! So please – stop the hatred and what not!

So, I am now tired from all this ruminating! Gina OUT!

Song – Tyrone Wells Cover Songs

This clip I recorded last night, 7/10, at Tyrone’s concert at the Troubadour in W. Hollywood.  He is one of my favorite performers  in his own right with tons of songs he wrote himself, but as I saw him the night before, I kind of hoped he would do these songs again. And he did!

Here he sings three excerpts from The Police, Marvin Gaye, and Bon Jovi