New Blogs

Hey, I am not going to turn this into a political blog – I have my opinions, but am not one to post them or debate about them (OH how the years have changed me!).  But I stumbled upon this blog and LOVE it!  Is it because I am an Obama supporter?  Maybe, maybe not.  Is it because it is entertaining?  Yep!  Is it because it is well written?  Absolutely!  So feel free to check it out here or use the link to the right.  (This same blogger has another blog about books that’s pretty good, too!)

Also, found an interesting blog from someone who lives in a little town in Alaska – here.  I have been fortunate to vacation in Alaska, which is a beautiful state, but it IS “small” in occupancy at least.  Interesting to see an insider’s view about the new VP running mate…..

A Quick Thought

I have this issue – of trusting people too much.  For believing their words, for acknowledging their promises and believing them.  For setting my hopes on things that really are feathers in the wind, moving much too fast for me to grab or control.  I need to learn that there should be a much smaller circle of people who have access to my feelings, to my heart, and that I need to guard my heart much more.  Because, even though my heart has great capacity to love, the odds of someone I have deemed trustworthy hurting me is very high.  And they won’t even acknowledge that HURT.  Maybe I am too low of a priority to even waste time on!

Sorry, another pitiful post by Gina.  Gina, who is tired of sucking it up as others walk through life pretending to care about me and well, don’t even look back as they shatter me……..

And while I am learning to share my hurt feelings (which I am miserable at), at least I am learning not to lash out at the ones who hurt me…… that progress?

Gina OUT

A Cool End to Summer

So school starts for the boys on Tuesday.  Can’t say they are overly excited about the summer ending, especially since I’ve been home and at their disposal much of the time!  But we went out with a bang…..and there are still a few days left!

Here is Kenny with his new board (sorry no surfing shots – Mom was tired this morning!)

Here am I after body surfing FREEZING and with my shoulder screaming

Afterward, we got food to eat and then decided to do a race and K1 Sport in Anaheim.  Here we go!

I won’t talk too much about my shoulder as my friend Teddi might want to yell at me again!  She A-SCARES me!  LOL

It was a great day!

Awesome Tuesday

I only have a few minutes to write, so sorry this is so brief!

Yesterday I took the boys to the beach – an early day, or a “surf day” – which means we were there before 8am!  Josh has finally taken the plunge and started boogie boarding…..he is actually pretty good!  And of course, Kenny had a blast surfing, although the waves weren’t huge or anything.  It was fun and we stayed until about 10:30, which is when most of the beach is closed to surfboards.

On the way back, we stopped in Orange to get some breakfast.  Since I used to live there, I told Kenny, “Hey, we should check out Play It Again Sports to see if they have their winter equipment out yet”.  The answer to that was NO – it will be out in September – but they had LOTS of summer equipment AND with killer prices!  NICE fiberglass surfboards cut at 50% off!  We asked the guy to make a recommendation for Kenny and found a pristine 6’6″ surfboard and it cost the same amount as the foam one I bought earlier this summer!  IT IS SWEET!  And it is still a great board for beginners too so it’s PERFECT!

So, we were all jazzed.  I am out of town for a few days, but we plan on going back Thursday or Friday to try it out!  Woohoo!  I will try ot have pics!

Hope you are well!

Body Language and Other Miscommunications…….

Dare I even suggest ASSUMPTIONS?

We, as humans, are very complicated creatures.  People like me tend to read signs or communicate in indirect ways.  This leads to assumptions and that is OFTEN not a good thing!

Some examples I am learning from – if someone does something that upsets me, it is better to share that with the person because they may not even be TRYING to send a message, or might even be shocked to know their actions hurt me!  However, if they WERE sending a message, the issue can be addressed and maybe even resolved!  Otherwise, you end up being hurt, they are oblivious and/or the issue is not really addressed, and resentment builds.  Never good.

I have also learned in the last few days that people can send mixed messages rather easily.  Like they can share a portion of the truth, but their ACTIONS create a signal or tell you that they are moving toward something when they are NOT.  In moments like this, I have learned it is better to be direct, ask straight out, and then know what the truth is.  Try not to read their ACTIONS and put too much weight on them because you could be way off!  I always say actions speak louder than words, and at times that is very true, but sometimes people send the wrong signals through their actions……

Also, don’t assume moods or messages in MySpace or other forums are about YOU!  They might be, but what if they have NOTHING to do with you?  You could be feeling pressure, pain, or other negative emotions that are a waste of time……..

I can be very direct, but I DO have a problem sharing when my feelings are hurt or I think my truth will cause rejection or anger……so I am working on that.  And I hope me sharing my experiences with the above help at least one of you!